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Early this year, A lawyer cried out in Abuja that there were 4,000 divorce cases in Abuja alone, that has barely lasted for a year ...
Hmmmm,this will shock you.. From a data collated, it states that out of every three marriages, two end in divorce. One of my protege, who is a Compere (MC) lamented to me that weddings he conducted a few months ago had ended in divorce.
Statistic from developed world states
Every 38secs, somebody gets divorced.
Every hour, 94 people get divorced.
Every day, 2,272 people get divorced.
Every week, 15,908 people get divorced.
Every year, 827,261 people get divorced.
This data is not to scare you but to draw your attention to how important this post is.
But I have good news for you, I am 10 years + in marriage and not divorced, we are having the best time of our lives.
Successful and enjoyable marriage is possible but why do marriages end in divorce.
Let us look at some reasons
1. IGNORANCE AND LACK OF PREPARATION
He that fails to prepare has prepared to fail. Poor preparation produces poor performance.
A lot of people prepare well for their wedding day but have very little preparation for the marriage. Wedding is a day, marriage is a life time adventure.
The wedding day can have thousands of people laughing, smiling, dancing, snapping selfies with you but the marriage is just for two of you.
We take so much time to prepare for our careers not less than 18 years schooling but enter into marriage with little or no Knowlege.
Ask a single lady or gentle man how many books,has he read about marriage? The answer is none. Ask him how many messages he has listened to or conferences/master classes he has gone to, on the subject of marriage? The answer is none.
How can you enter marriage with common sense? My wife and I read serveral books on marriage during our courtship. That formed our discussion.
We were informed, prepared and equipped for the journey. Friends, marriage is a journey not a stroll. It is marathon and not a 100 meter race. 60 years with one person no be beans.
2. LACK OF INTIMACY
Not feeling connected to your partner can quickly ruin a marriage because it leaves couples feeling as though they’re living with a stranger or more like room mates than spouses.
This can be from a lack of physical or emotional intimacy. If you are constantly giving your spouse the cold shoulder, then know that over time it can become the ground for divorce.
Ignoring your partner’s sexual needs is being called the number one cause of divorce in recent times.
Making your relationship intimate and special is the responsibility of both partners.
Practice little acts of kindness, appreciation and enjoy physical intimacy as much as possible to sweeten your relationship.
I need to buttress on the area of sexual needs.
If you are single close your ears and eyes, if you are married open them.
How can you be married for less than 10 years and you are having sex once a month, that is madness. Please give no room to the devil, sexual intercourse is also a way to build intimacy. Sex starts in the morning and not in the night.
Sending your spouse lovely text message, buying her something when coming back from work. Assisting her when she is doing house chores, playing around with her. Sneaking on her and touch her sensitive parts.
Omo na this things dey make marriage sweet. Don't kill that spark and π₯π₯ π₯ you had from the beginning. These are the woods to keep the fire burning.
3. INTERFERENCE OF PARENTS IN MARRIED LIFE
If your in-laws interfere in every conversation, decision and lifestyle choice that you and your partner make, it can end up making to the list of valid reasons for divorce.
It is annoying to have somebody telling you, no matter how experienced and wise they are, on how to interact, what to do with your life and where and when to go.
An overbearing, looming presence of in-laws in a couple’s married life is one of the causes of divorce today.
On the eve of my wedding day, I was visited by my wedding chair man who was a spiritual person. He shared a secret for successful marriage with me that has become a norm and principle in our home.
He said "Never involve third parties in your marriage except the issue has become unresolveable within you. But Iyke, there is no issue you and your wife can not resolve.
In my marriage, we drew a line that made for none interference of our parents in our marriage.
Genesis 2:24 KJV
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
In marriage, you leave your parents (emotionally, financially, physcally etc) to cleave to your wife. Know this, it will help you.
It is stupidity and foolishness to sit as a full fledged man to watch your wife been interrogated by your sibblings and parents before your village elders. Kai!!! Who do you this thing.
You are an oversized baby with pampers, marriage is for matured men and not baby boys.
Chioma Sweetie m, we are stuck for lifeπ₯°ππ
I hope this blessed you.
Watch out for part 2 next week
#Iamiykeoyeka
#Iamaglobalgiant
#Thenew2020
#Ingatheringandyouthfoundation
Hmmmm,this will shock you.. From a data collated, it states that out of every three marriages, two end in divorce. One of my protege, who is a Compere (MC) lamented to me that weddings he conducted a few months ago had ended in divorce.
Statistic from developed world states
Every 38secs, somebody gets divorced.
Every hour, 94 people get divorced.
Every day, 2,272 people get divorced.
Every week, 15,908 people get divorced.
Every year, 827,261 people get divorced.
This data is not to scare you but to draw your attention to how important this post is.
But I have good news for you, I am 10 years + in marriage and not divorced, we are having the best time of our lives.
Successful and enjoyable marriage is possible but why do marriages end in divorce.
Let us look at some reasons
1. IGNORANCE AND LACK OF PREPARATION
He that fails to prepare has prepared to fail. Poor preparation produces poor performance.
A lot of people prepare well for their wedding day but have very little preparation for the marriage. Wedding is a day, marriage is a life time adventure.
The wedding day can have thousands of people laughing, smiling, dancing, snapping selfies with you but the marriage is just for two of you.
We take so much time to prepare for our careers not less than 18 years schooling but enter into marriage with little or no Knowlege.
Ask a single lady or gentle man how many books,has he read about marriage? The answer is none. Ask him how many messages he has listened to or conferences/master classes he has gone to, on the subject of marriage? The answer is none.
How can you enter marriage with common sense? My wife and I read serveral books on marriage during our courtship. That formed our discussion.
We were informed, prepared and equipped for the journey. Friends, marriage is a journey not a stroll. It is marathon and not a 100 meter race. 60 years with one person no be beans.
2. LACK OF INTIMACY
Not feeling connected to your partner can quickly ruin a marriage because it leaves couples feeling as though they’re living with a stranger or more like room mates than spouses.
This can be from a lack of physical or emotional intimacy. If you are constantly giving your spouse the cold shoulder, then know that over time it can become the ground for divorce.
Ignoring your partner’s sexual needs is being called the number one cause of divorce in recent times.
Making your relationship intimate and special is the responsibility of both partners.
Practice little acts of kindness, appreciation and enjoy physical intimacy as much as possible to sweeten your relationship.
I need to buttress on the area of sexual needs.
If you are single close your ears and eyes, if you are married open them.
How can you be married for less than 10 years and you are having sex once a month, that is madness. Please give no room to the devil, sexual intercourse is also a way to build intimacy. Sex starts in the morning and not in the night.
Sending your spouse lovely text message, buying her something when coming back from work. Assisting her when she is doing house chores, playing around with her. Sneaking on her and touch her sensitive parts.
Omo na this things dey make marriage sweet. Don't kill that spark and π₯π₯ π₯ you had from the beginning. These are the woods to keep the fire burning.
3. INTERFERENCE OF PARENTS IN MARRIED LIFE
If your in-laws interfere in every conversation, decision and lifestyle choice that you and your partner make, it can end up making to the list of valid reasons for divorce.
It is annoying to have somebody telling you, no matter how experienced and wise they are, on how to interact, what to do with your life and where and when to go.
An overbearing, looming presence of in-laws in a couple’s married life is one of the causes of divorce today.
On the eve of my wedding day, I was visited by my wedding chair man who was a spiritual person. He shared a secret for successful marriage with me that has become a norm and principle in our home.
He said "Never involve third parties in your marriage except the issue has become unresolveable within you. But Iyke, there is no issue you and your wife can not resolve.
In my marriage, we drew a line that made for none interference of our parents in our marriage.
Genesis 2:24 KJV
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
In marriage, you leave your parents (emotionally, financially, physcally etc) to cleave to your wife. Know this, it will help you.
It is stupidity and foolishness to sit as a full fledged man to watch your wife been interrogated by your sibblings and parents before your village elders. Kai!!! Who do you this thing.
You are an oversized baby with pampers, marriage is for matured men and not baby boys.
Chioma Sweetie m, we are stuck for lifeπ₯°ππ
I hope this blessed you.
Watch out for part 2 next week
#Iamiykeoyeka
#Iamaglobalgiant
#Thenew2020
#Ingatheringandyouthfoundation
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